- By Zoë Greening, 13 HRM Have you ever seen someone and felt your heart stop?
Whether of fear or nervousness?
This is a problem among teens: what we call love.
Yeah, there will always be the special guy or girl that caught your eye, but can you really call it love? Is that going to be the word you use because there is no other way of knowing or describe the feeling, the IT? Now if you get up enough nerve to tell or say how you feel to that person, what if they reject you? Let me share some advice from experience. Sure, it may not be accurate since I'm only 13, but come on, you got to at least give me a chance! I've had a couple boyfriends and there have been the times I've been rejected. Adults say we're too young to know what love is. I don't think that's true. Sure! Maybe some of us haven't felt it, or maybe we have and didn't know what it was, but that doesn’t mean we're too young or incapable, of at least knowing we're feeling something. The mystery is in the feelings and instead of validating our feelings, they are dismissed with the term adults use as "puppy love." Well, puppy love can grow into a healthy love with the proper acceptance, guidance and validation of our feelings.
Yeah, maybe it's not the real thing and maybe it won’t last as long as your so-called marriages. Even so, we are feeling and experiencing the sweaty palms, shaky legs, nervousness, our heart racing and we also feel the sad sinking feelings of being rejected. So you see, we are definitely capable of feeling at our age, and I think most of all or any who read this would agree with me when I say, "you should respect our feelings too."
We CAN understand when you use big words or common terms to describe for us what we are feeling as something so insignificantly small. The problem is these are your words for our feeling not your understanding of our feelings.
Love or rejection, the feelings are never small and when you think our 'little minds' won’t comprehend what you're saying, maybe you're right: our minds may be confused but are hearts are still feeling! So lastly, PLEASE at least consider thinking about how you felt when someone rejected you or denied you what you were feeling and passed it off as "It's not love, it's just a phase" and then remember we have feelings, just the same as you.
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